Happy, Safe and Solo: Travelling in India by Yourself

When I told my dad that I was going to India by myself, his face fell. No matter that my cousin had travelled for a year through the country on her own; no matter, too, that I’d been travelling solo on various trips for the last six years.

No: in his opinion, India was something else entirely. The reputation the country holds for being unsafe – particularly for local and foreign women alike – is normally enough to ring all those internal alarm bells, and prompts a concerned parental discussion that solo travellers often face:

“Are you sure you want to go there alone?”

Flora at the Taj Mahal

Solo travel for women has, for a long time, been a topic of intense discussion, and it’s flared up again recently due to the tragic murder of Sarai Sierra, an American women travelling through Turkey by herself. The responses on public forums range from saddened to incensed, and comments like, “I would never let my beautiful wife out the door to travel to any country alone” are flooding the internet.

Violence against women is sadly something that occurs the world over. Whether in the cityscapes of a country you’ve never thought to visit, or on the street you grew up on, there will always be tragic incidences like this. But, as women, it’s up to us to face these situations head on, and accept that while there is danger and fear from outside, there is also strength and confidence from within.

Shying away is not an option when it conflicts with doing what you love.

As a woman, should you travel solo?

This time last year I set off for Asia by myself, to spend six months in Nepal, India and Thailand. And today I fly to Ecuador, to spend five months teaching English, followed by a further, unknown amount of time travelling around South America. While my teaching program is with a volunteer company I am, effectively, going by myself – like so many solo female travellers out there, all of whom have faced prejudice and difficulty while abroad.

I don’t yet know what Ecuador holds for me, but from past experience, research and wonderful advice from friends and bloggers, I feel averagely prepared to explore this unfamiliar part of the world. And I’m damned excited about doing it, too.

But I’m not going to sugar coat the reality of solo female travel. Spending four months in India taught me that travelling alone can often, quite simply, suck. It can be difficult, and embarrassing, and sometimes downright scary. And since last December’s horrific gang rape and eventual death of an Indian woman in Delhi (whose name has not been released), there’s been an accompanying backlash, with the prevailing attitude that it is simply not safe for women to travel around India alone.

In my opinion though, India is an incredible country. Despite its many dangers, it’s also one of the most fascinating, diverse and colourful places I’ve ever been to, and I feel strongly that travelling in India is a very personal experience. Sure, you’ll have a wonderful time if you go there with friends, with partners, with family; but if you travel in India by yourself, the benefits are huge.

So here is my Western woman’s guide to solo India travel, based on personal experience and my own opinions. And some of the things I wish I’d done a bit more of.

Flora in a sari

Dressing the part

In a society as conservative as India’s, the first and most important step to minimising your Western-ness is to wear respectable clothes.

Despite the photo, I don’t actually mean dressing up in Indian outfits- plus that sari I’m wearing is way too fancy for everyday wear!. While many travellers do choose to buy dupattis and salwar kameez (the basic Indian woman’s clothing), and find it to be a good move, I wouldn’t recommend it for your first explorations of India.

The only salwar suit I bought in India, which looked lovely in the store, was actually rather inappropriate to wear wandering around Delhi. The crowning moment came when I pulled it out to wear at my friend’s wedding, only to have the bride make a face and hand me my much more hippy silk skirt and tee shirt to wear…

Instead, I’d suggest having your shoulders, knees and various curvy parts being appropriately covered up, at all times. If you’re on the top-heavy side, then draping a scarf across your chest is a great way to deflect attention.

Depending on the time of year you go to India, you’ll also have to factor in the weather. From March until monsoon season in mid-June, the country heats up steadily, and there’s no escape from spending all your time drenched in sweat. As a result, it’s really sensible to wear loose clothes that dry easily and are breathable – and make sure they don’t get see through when damp! You’ll be stared at enough as it is..

The fast track to celebrity

As a Westerner in India, you are automatically a celebrity. Your skin colour, your clothes, your hair (particularly if you’re blonde): all this Western strangeness is absolutely fascinating to a majority of Indians, especially those who live in areas which don’t have a huge influx of tourism. I’m quite a self conscious person, and the incessant staring that every Western visitor faces in India often got the better of me.

So you’ll have to get used to having your photo taken, whether you’ve given consent or not. Accept that many women will look at you and laugh; try to be gracious about it and remember that all those photos you take of stunning sari-clad ladies without asking permission need some karmic return!

Actively posing for these photos, along with the various family members of the photographer, is also a great way to make momentary friendships: I have a vast collection of photos with my arms encircling smiling Indian women and with various wailing babies on my lap.

Indian family and Westerners

The general rule of thumb, though, is to only give the go ahead if there are women or children involved. When a gang of teenage boys ask for a photo and want to put their arms around you, it’s normally time to back off. And if they’re too insistent, and the atmosphere shifts from jokey to a bit threatening, don’t hesitate to make your feelings apparent.

Don’t be scared to show some attitude!

It was really interesting working in Punjab, amongst Indians, as a woman traveling by myself. Because I was Western, I commanded a certain amount of respect; but then I was a woman, so conversely was left out of conversations and situations deemed inappropriate for me. Because I’d decided to go travelling, people were impressed and slightly in awe of my daring; but then I was equally someone to be pitied, because the idea that I was by myself meant I was somehow lacking.

It was a really strange mix of opinions to get my head around. In fact, my whole travelling ethos in general was so interesting to a lot of the local people that I ended up being interviewed about it for the local newspaper!

Flora Baker, The Tribune, Pg 1, May 12, 2012 (Part-1)

But the one thing I felt overwhelmingly was that nobody was going to treat me with the respect I felt I deserved - unless I was vocal about it. While I wanted to respect and prescribe to the culture I was living in, there’s a limit; and being Western meant I felt a certain obligation to challenge the stereotype many Indians have about Westerners. 

So when men stared at me too much or too blatantly, I stared back unblinkingly. I trained myself to stop being so smily at strangers, and semi-perfected my “shame on you” face for those whose stares looked a bit too pervy for their own good.

It’s difficult to say if these actions were successful (or even if they were advisable!) but I never felt in danger as a result. While there’s still a large amount of sexism in India, I ultimately felt like I was outside of it because I was only a visitor.

You won’t be alone for long

One of the best things about travelling solo in India is how untrue that phrase really is. I don’t think I ever really felt alone in India; whether with fellow Western travellers, Indian work colleagues, impromptu acquaintances on trains and buses, or other tourists at India’s famed landmarks, there was always an opportunity for interaction.

If you’re worried about not meeting anyone, you can search online before arriving in a city – check out a few guesthouse reviews and look for somewhere with a good community vibe, as the places you stay are perfect for meeting people, and can often lead to new travelling buddies. Most of the Indian cities that travellers pass through have various activities and classes happening, like yoga classes or jewellery making. Or you can try joining a tour group for a few weeks to make the culture shock a bit less of a big deal, like I did.

There are also plenty of places in the country that are touristy enough to make you feel comfortable in your Western skin again. If you’re feeling overly white, blind from camera flashes and need a bit of a break, holing up in McLeod Ganj for a week or two with your fellow hippies is often enough to recharge.

On first arrival into India though, the constant streams of people can certainly be overwhelming – which is when you quietly head up to a rooftop cafe and look out over the busy streets below with a cup of chai, and give yourself a chance to breathe.

Safety and intuition: trust your gut! 

From my experience, most Indians are a very friendly bunch. And while this can be really lovely – particularly when you’re travelling on your own – you still need to exercise the same amount of caution that you would if you were back home. And because you’ll often be in unfamiliar locations with total strangers, keeping your wits about you is of the utmost importance.

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This means keeping a close eye on your possessions, not flashing your cash, informing someone where you’re going, researching the safety of surrounding areas and generally ensuring that you’ve got a back up plan in any given situation. 

India is a very intuitive country and I often found myself able to second guess the direction of situations and conversations. If you don’t feel comfortable, it’s up to you to extract yourself from what’s happening. Don’t just go along with someone’s plans because you’re too polite to say no. 

Be really careful about who you trust yourself to be alone with, and if you’re worried, search out a family with children or a group of women and explain that you’d like to stand near them or with them. Anyone I did this with were more than happy to accommodate – particularly on trains, at stations and at night. Even scoping out the people who look trustworthy is a sensible move, just to feel a bit safer. And speaking of your gut…

Get ready to get sick

The hygiene in India is simply not good. The streets are dirty and home to piles of litter, the sanitation in bathrooms is mediocre at best, and you often don’t see your food being prepared.

Basically, getting diarrhoea in India is a rite of passage that pretty much every traveller goes through. And I’m not going to lie: it’s dehabilitating, it’s miserable, it makes you hate everything, and it can start your brain thinking that it might just be easier to go home. But don’t give in!! There’s light at the end of the tunnel. And while it might be the most painful form of weight loss you’ve ever experienced, it’s also an education like no other.

Once you’ve had your first bout of Delhi Belly (which can and will be contracted everywhere else in the country, as well as Delhi), you start to appreciate the value in a little bottle of hand sanitiser and a requisite thought process before you ingest absolutely anything, which goes along the lines of, ”just how sick could this make me?”

Flora eating chili on Chennai beach

  • Rules of the water: never eat ice. It’ll be frozen from tap water. Never drink from the tap, brush your teeth with tap water, or even open your mouth in the shower; stick to drinking only bottled or filtered water. Many people say you shouldn’t eat the ice cream in India, either, as the melting and refreezing causes tons of bacteria to breed.
  • Rules of the food: if it’s from a street stall, make sure it’s either sizzling hot or you see the stall holder cooking it. If you need to, ask them to quickly throw it back on the heat for a few minutes. In a restaurant, it’s probably best to keep cold fruits and vegetables off limits, as they’ve normally been washed in tap water. Same goes for those limp bits of lettuce that pass for salad. And, like anywhere else in the world, if it tastes strange, don’t keep eating it!
  • Rules of the street: wear closed shoes when you’re walking anywhere that looks particularly unhygienic  If you have an open cut literally anywhere on your body, keep it covered and by every means necessary do NOT let it get in contact with any liquid you don’t know the origin of.
  • Rules of the animals: most street dogs have tics, so it’s sensible not to get too cosy. The mosquitos vary according to region, but it’s usually a good idea to wear repellent just in case. There’s also a number of other bugs and insects flitting around, so it could help out with them too. Otherwise you could end up with my mysterious leg bites (I’m not going to share that photo now, but it can be found over here for those who care to look…)
  • Rules of the people: while you might be sanitizing your hands all the live-long day, but the same can’t be expected of every Indian you interact with. When you’re taking your change from a street seller, those exceedingly thin ten rupee notes are also exceedingly filthy. Keep it in mind when you’re scratching your nose or rubbing lip salve on, please!

A rubbish collector in India

The most important thing to remember is that you’ll never know what makes you sick. There’s no point in avoiding all meat, ice cubes and street food just to gargle absentmindedly in the shower and spend the next three weeks on the loo.

Be sensible, but equally don’t be silly. If you’ve had a case of diarrhoea for more than three days, with or without a fever, call in a doctor for some heavy-duty antibiotics. There’s no reason to put up with “the sickness” any longer than you have to!

Keep an open mind

After more than four months working, volunteering, living and travelling in India, I still don’t have a handle on the place. It has the capacity to make me infuriated and enraptured, happy and helpless, crazy and calm – and I love it, hate it, can’t believe it, and already want to go back for more.

Sign for foreigners, Pushkar

It’s with deep regret that I’ve talked to people who’ve been to India, struggled with any number of the above situations, and decided the country is a write off. I’m not saying they’re wrong, but I don’t think they’ve understood the wonderful uniqueness of India.

It carries you along in a tide of noise, colour, spice, sweat and heat, and the only thing you can really do is let it. Because the craziness is what makes India truly India. The times I felt the most helpless and freaked out were often followed by the most wonderful and memorable experiences of my whole trip.

And the learning curve I went through as a result of travelling through India by myself has changed me, irrefutably. It’s something that I’ll always be thankful for.

Flora at Mysore market

What have you learned from travelling solo? Do you have any other tips for women who plan to travel alone?

NB: There is a great deal of attention focused on the issues regarding solo female travel at the moment, due to the tragic events surrounding Sarai Sierra, an American woman who was killed while travelling in Turkey by herself. While events like this cannot always be prevented, the solo female blogging community is keen to help out those who still want to travel solo. Follow #WeGoSolo on Twitter for more. 

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70 Responses to Happy, Safe and Solo: Travelling in India by Yourself

  1. Charlotte February 7, 2013 at 11:55 am #

    Really really great post. I went to India for just a week by myself in January. SO many people asked me why I did that. It was just something I felt I needed to do. I got sick, had a massage from a guy that I think didn’t go so well, but I still loved it. It was an experience, and now I’ve had the taster, I’ll go back for sure. I’ve had so many flight attendants, bloggers and other experts tell me much better places to go as a solo woman so I want to check them all out.

    • Flora February 7, 2013 at 11:30 pm #

      That’s wonderful to hear, Charlotte – I’ve often found that people who travel to India for a short period of time end up not really ‘getting’ it, and they don’t want to go back!

      • travel lady February 9, 2013 at 9:21 am #

        Hi Flora! I really enjoyed your travel in India the pictures and the stories that you’ve shared it’s just so good to read again and again. I have never been to India but now, I’m having second thoughts, any suitable place to go specially if I bring with me my nieces and nephews?

        • Flora February 9, 2013 at 1:48 pm #

          Glad you enjoyed it! It depends on their ages really but I saw a lot of travellers with young children in tow, all of whom were having a wonderful time :)

  2. Olivia - young on the road February 7, 2013 at 3:14 pm #

    This gave me some great advice. I am not going to India (actually, who knows) but am headed for Se-Asia on my 6 month solo trip as a 19yr old female.

    However, is the tap water in Se-Asia as bad as the water in India? I have heard that having ice in Thailand etc is OK?

    • Flora February 7, 2013 at 11:25 pm #

      When I arrived in Thailand, after four months in India, I was so used to avoiding tap water that I kept up the habit – but I remember that many people were drinking from the taps with no problem :) Ice should be fine too, as it’s normally made from purified water and is mentioned in restaurant menus etc. Safe travels!

  3. RV February 7, 2013 at 3:30 pm #

    Hey, nice to read your impressions about India. Yes, it’s indeed a country with a lot of diversity; one shall appreciate the cultural nuances better and get used to certain peculiarities as one stays longer and travels across the different states of India. Hope you get a chance to go there again! :)

    • Flora February 9, 2013 at 1:48 pm #

      I hope I get to go back too! There’s so much left to explore :)

  4. Jessica Wray February 7, 2013 at 3:39 pm #

    I’ll be heading to India in less than two weeks, and I’ll be there for about six! Yay! This was one of the best posts I read about women traveling to India so far. Though I won’t be alone, (I’ll be with my boyfriend) this was still really helpful on all levels.

    As for the clothes, I was planning on buying some more appropriate things upon arrival. Besides the Indian wear you mentioned above, is it easy to find cheap clothes that are light weight and appropriate? I’m not too sure if I’ll be wanting to buy a bunch of dupattas :)

    • RV February 7, 2013 at 3:47 pm #

      Enjoy your stay in India. Let me know if you need any more tips…:)

    • Flora February 7, 2013 at 11:37 pm #

      Ahh that’s wonderful Jessica! Glad it’s given you some inspiration, as that’s exactly why I wrote it :)

      Clothing wise, it does depend what parts of the country you’re in but there’ll always be opportunity to buy yourself some clothes. The main difference will be whether its hippy wear or more Indian!

  5. Adventurous Kate February 7, 2013 at 4:39 pm #

    Flora, this is the best post I’ve ever seen about solo female travel in India. Will be sharing it like mad. Thanks!!

    • Flora February 7, 2013 at 11:38 pm #

      Thanks so much, Kate!

  6. Coti February 7, 2013 at 4:54 pm #

    This is such a great post! I went to India for 16 days last year and fell in love with it. I (surprisingly) never got Delhi belly but only ventured out for street food once or twice. We traveled around A LOT and it seemed we stopped every day at some random gas station or street stall for a chai tea. I guess the hot water kept these daily treats from making me sick.

    I love your perspective though. I went to India with five other people and can’t imagine going alone. You bring up a lot of really great points though. I felt uncomfortable a few times in India but I’ve felt that here in America, too. Thanks for the reminder that smart choices make all the difference!

    • Flora February 7, 2013 at 11:39 pm #

      I am insanely jealous right now – there’s only a handful of people I’ve spoken to who didn’t get sick! You must have a seriously hardcore stomach :)

      • Coti Howell February 8, 2013 at 12:41 am #

        I think living in Bangkok for two years prior was my stomach training. I was very lucky! I was the only one in our six person group who didn’t get sick.

  7. Mariellen Ward February 7, 2013 at 5:18 pm #

    Awesome post, Flora, and generally agree with you — though I do wear salwar kameez (suits) in India. Thanks for writing it and sharing it on #WeGoSolo. Cheers.

    • Flora February 7, 2013 at 11:41 pm #

      I think the next time I go to India I’ll invest in some good salwar kameez from a tailor – I was more about channelling the traveller outfits this time! Thanks for the positive feedback, Mariellen :)

  8. Aleah | SolitaryWanderer.com February 7, 2013 at 6:21 pm #

    Excellent tips, and timely too. I’m going to India for 3 weeks in March and I can’t wait. Yeah, #WeGoSolo and we’ll tell the world about it!

    • Flora February 7, 2013 at 11:43 pm #

      Wonderful stuff Aleah! If you’re there in March you should be around for Holi – make sure you find yourself a good city/town to enjoy it in!

  9. Lisa February 7, 2013 at 7:52 pm #

    Very nicely put; I recently travelled in India by myself and can’t wait to go back. In fact, I am planning a post about how gentle the people can be; I was treated like a princess. Obviously that doesn’t mean that we should close our ears and be oblivious to the potential dangers, as in all countries, as you have so rightly stated.

    Very nice read, thank you. It’s nice to see the Indians given some good press for a change :)

    • Flora February 7, 2013 at 11:45 pm #

      Thanks for this, Lisa: it’s something I hadn’t really put my finger on until I read your comment. You’re right – India gets such bad press sometimes but I met so many incredible, kind and generous people there.

      Let me know when your post goes live, I’d love to read your experiences in more detail :)

  10. Caroline Eubanks February 7, 2013 at 10:57 pm #

    Love it! Great work. Agreed with Kate, will be sharing all over the place.

    • Flora February 7, 2013 at 11:43 pm #

      Woohoo!! I’m loving all this sharing love :)

  11. Adam Pervez February 8, 2013 at 3:16 am #

    Great post! I’m here in India now. I’d say most of this applies to guys as well, though I am sure I am not stared at as much!

    • Flora February 9, 2013 at 1:53 pm #

      Great to hear, Adam! Hopefully a lot of this info is also applicable to guys too – but I wouldn’t recommend wearing a sari :p

  12. TammyOnTheMove February 8, 2013 at 8:18 am #

    That’s a great post Flora. I will be going to India next month and although I won’t be traveling solo I really appreciate your tips about clothes. I read from two bloggers that they were groped while in India and they had male company. Like you said I think as long as you respect local customs and don’t show too much flesh you should be allright traveling any country solo though.

    • Flora February 9, 2013 at 2:09 pm #

      Sadly, I met quite a few girls who’d had unwanted hands in various places. A friend of mine was grabbed on a night train outside the bathroom, and was understandably really upset – and she was using the same tactics as me. But it’s still entirely sensible to respect the customs of the country regardless.

  13. Krista February 8, 2013 at 4:58 pm #

    Do volunteer at the Sri Aurobindo ashram in Delhi. They have other ashrams in the hills around Nainital. You can help with the computer work, give English conversation lessons, peel potatoes, etc. That is what I enjoy doing almost every year now.

    • Flora February 16, 2013 at 5:41 am #

      Thanks for the suggestion Krista, I’d love to head over to Sri Aurobindo when I next visit India.

  14. Satu February 9, 2013 at 7:36 am #

    Great tips, and I hope they encourage women to travel to India AND stay safe. One thing I disagree with (probably the one and only thing) is the idea of staring back at men who stare at you: staring CAN be seen as a come-on, and it is not something Indian women generally do. I recommend ignoring stares; I know it’s hard, but it’s easier if you wear sunglasses!

    • Flora February 16, 2013 at 5:43 am #

      Yep, I totally agree – I think the main moments I was pointedly staring back were when I was simply too sweaty and angry at all the attention to really think about the consequences! But sunglasses is a very good method as you can do all the staring back you like behind the cover :)

  15. Patricia GW February 12, 2013 at 1:25 am #

    Hi Flo, these are great down-to-earth tips. I’ve bookmarked them for when I visit India. I happened on your blog the other day and was SO EXCITED to find another female-solo-traveler vagabonding around the world. I’ll be hitting the road myself in a few months, and can’t wait to join the ranks :)

    • Flora February 16, 2013 at 5:45 am #

      I’m glad you’ve found the article so useful – and there’s a fair few of us female traveller types around the place! Safe travels on your next big trip Patricia :)

  16. Petite Adventures February 13, 2013 at 8:20 pm #

    Really great tips and insights – thanks for sharing!

    Kate xo

  17. Britany February 14, 2013 at 11:05 pm #

    Thank you for putting it out there that solo travel does indeed, sometimes suck. But it wouldn’t be the fulfilling challenge that it is if we didn’t overcome hard days along the way. Great post!

    • Flora February 16, 2013 at 5:46 am #

      I think it’s an important part of travelling to acknowledge that things definitely can, and do, go wrong – and sometimes you’re really not happy with your situation. But in the end it always turns out alright, and the fulfilment value is more than worth it!

  18. Alen February 15, 2013 at 3:48 pm #

    Being an Indian, it was a different experience to read this post. It gave insights into what a lone foreigner woman who has travelled to India feels about my country. When I continue to live here as I did for the past 25 years, most of the things you mentioned feel like part of routine – crowd, dust, animals! Stuff we feel are part of being an Indian, regular, common stuff. Only when someone alien to all these come visit and write about it, we get to think, ‘so this is how it is’ :)
    I hope even though there were dust, dirt, diarrhea, and a whole lot of more problems, you liked your time here.

    • Flora March 19, 2013 at 3:12 am #

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Alen – it’s certainly an insight to hear that your familiarities when living in India are what others perceive as differences and challenges. But then isn’t that the way with a majority of travel – comparing and contrasting different familiarities between cultures?

      I absolutely loved my time in India – dust, dirt, diarrhoea and all! Ok, maybe not the latter quite so much :)

  19. Shalu Sharma February 16, 2013 at 11:57 pm #

    Good advice and information. Its possible to go to India alone if you are a women, you just have to be extra cautious.

    • Flora March 19, 2013 at 3:08 am #

      Thanks Shalu, I’m glad you agree that India is perfectly accessible for women, as long as they keep their wits about them!

  20. Susan @ Travel Junkette February 17, 2013 at 5:10 pm #

    Great post, Flora! I think the advice you share can be applied to pretty much anywhere. Solo female travel forevsssss!

    • Flora February 22, 2013 at 3:32 pm #

      Hopefully it’s pretty worldwide advice :) Cheers Susan, safe travels!

  21. Neil Playdon February 22, 2013 at 1:42 pm #

    What a great article. India is a place I would love to visit one day and you’ve provided some really comprehensive and practical advice. Loved your comment about Diarrhoea being a ‘rite of passage’ – how true. A case of ‘suck it up’! Loved the photos that you posted with this as well. Thanks.

    • Flora February 22, 2013 at 3:27 pm #

      Thanks Neil – sucking it up is definitely a good attitude to take when facing the dreaded Delhi Belly!

  22. Kieu ~ GQ trippin February 25, 2013 at 9:50 pm #

    Flora, this is one of my new fave post read. Really enjoyed it. I went to India with my bf and I still experience all the same things you mentioned as a solo traveler. I really had to “show some attitude” like you mention. Dressing the part, trying my best to not be so smily and starring back all help to blend us in as much as possible. I got groped during Holi and food poisoning from street food. It’s a country that will test your limits but when I look back, I still say it’s one of the most challenging and rewarding experiences of my life. I have a love/ hate, mostly love for this beautiful, unforgiving country. I look forward to your future reads.. =)

    • Flora February 28, 2013 at 4:34 am #

      Thanks so much, Kieu! I can imagine that India is different yet again if you’re travelling with a boyfriend – not being addressed by locals in favour of him etc. And sorry that you had similar limit testers! India really does seem to dole them out sometimes :)

  23. Suzie February 28, 2013 at 2:58 am #

    Flore I have travelled many times in India and you make some very good points in your article. The most important thing I found was fitting in ( I just love wearing punjabi’s) so as not to offend anyone or bring undue attention to my appearance, and also taking time to understand the culture. As with all different places there are certain things you should and should not do…learning what is correct when traveling can make the experience that much sweeter!

    • Flora March 1, 2013 at 12:04 am #

      I wish I’d worn the local clothes more often actually – I wonder if it would have changed my experiences significantly or not. I’m sure I’ll head back to India at some point to test it out though!

  24. anup073 March 14, 2013 at 4:13 pm #

    Hey, i happen to read your blog after a lot of time.And boy havent you travelled during that little time.You,ma’am, just dont sit idle.And i feel like going through all of your blogs at once ,although not possible.Look i will be honest being from india i dont find anything you wrote to be alarming or a shock.I know everything you wrote above is absolutely true.I never used to let my sister travel alone after her work.So i cant even imagine how much difficult it can be for an outsider like you who is alone and travelling in trains etc.But i remember you wrote once that if you look very confused and asking everybody on road for directions ,you come across as vulnerable so what i always admired about your visit was that you seemed to have a plan and come across as a confident woman,atleast thats how you seem to me.Anyways im going to read your other travel experiences soon. If you ever make any plans to visit chandigarh or panjab,me and my family would love to help you out in any way possible.Beacuse i wudnt mind being part of those amazing travel pics and stories you got going on here.lol

  25. anup073 March 14, 2013 at 4:19 pm #

    And one thing i would like to suggest to anyone who is travelling alone is that dont travel in second class or passenger class in trains no matter what they are not safe for foreigners as simple as that.And as much as possible take volvo buses.

    • Flora March 19, 2013 at 3:15 am #

      Lovely to hear from you, Anup – and I appreciate your honest opinion about the safety and wellbeing of women in India. Hopefully things will change soon – even if the catalyst for change has to be something as terrible as the most recent collection of cases regarding violence against women.

  26. Veronica March 19, 2013 at 5:54 pm #

    This is such a great post with really important points you made as a female solo traveller. I wrote a post on making friends going solo, as I’ve travelled a lot on my own now. I absolutely love it and think there’s no better way to make the most of a new country and gain new experiences this way. It’s lovely to read there are so many other solo female travellers out there :) Happy travelling!

    • Christine March 23, 2013 at 3:01 am #

      I am so absolutely delighted to have found your blog!!!!! :D I am headed to India next week for the whole month of April… and am traveling by myself. And as my departure date gets closer, I’ve really been searching for information on safety… specifically for a single female. The kind of attention India has been getting recently here in the US has gotten me a little worried. :( I am doing some volunteer work… and though normally I feel fine on my own, I am really hoping to find a friend in India that would like to do some sight-seeing stuff (the general tourist stuff) for the last week of April. :) Reading your blog definitely makes me feel a bit more at ease. :)

      Thank you for all of the advice. :) I am excited about shopping for some salwar kameez outfits. :) Besides the clothes I wear when I fly, I’m just packing my trekking shoes, an extra pair of pants, and a couple extra shirts.

      One question though: Know anything about the night buses that go from Majnu Ka Tilla to Dharamsala?

      I have bookmarked you and ‘Liked’ on FB…. I will be keeping up with you now. ;) I wish you a lifetime of safe travels, Flora! :)

    • Flora March 28, 2013 at 1:22 pm #

      Thanks Veronica, I’m glad the points I made resonated with you. I think it’s so important for fellow female travellers to garner support from each other that what we’re choosing to do is the right decision for us – no one should be able to say otherwise!

  27. leisure arts leaflets for sale April 10, 2013 at 4:13 am #

    Hello! This is my first visit to your blog! We are a team of volunteers and starting a new project in a community in the same niche.
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    • Flora April 10, 2013 at 2:22 pm #

      Great to hear it, thanks!

  28. Deepak Sharma April 17, 2013 at 6:56 am #

    Hi Flora and others

    Good to see your posts about India, always love to see posts related to our Great Country INDIA

    Thanx for sharing your experience with others..i am from India only…Anyone who want any information related to india can mail me @ ep.deepaksharma@gmail.com.

    Always happy to help and we indian treat guests like god.

    Thank you all

    • Flora April 25, 2013 at 2:40 am #

      Hi Deepak, glad you enjoyed what you read!

  29. Cecilia Haynes April 17, 2013 at 8:01 pm #

    Hey Flora,

    Really loved this post! I actually grew up in India (Calcutta, New Delhi and Chennai for a combined 8 years) and loved every second of it. It is an intense place and you will feel the highest highs and the lowest lows, sometimes even within the same minute.

    Just one tip for food safety: Make sure the rice is hot. It can be sitting out all day and breed a lot of bacteria.

    Also, traveling alone in India is a great excuse to keep a doorstop with you just in case!

    I look forward to exploring your site a bit more.

    • Flora April 25, 2013 at 2:39 am #

      I definitely agree with the doorstop sentiment! So glad you enjoyed the post, Cecilia – and I hope you enjoy the rest of the site with as much enthusiasm!

  30. Riazmajid May 20, 2013 at 2:50 pm #

    Your Infos about India was so good, I am an Indian , but I don’t think , I can explain about India so pretty well like you, every lines of urs had its punch , I really don’t know you have travelled the whole India or not , if you are visiting India again try to be in the south part of India which has more green especially a state called Kerala

    • Flora May 22, 2013 at 3:03 am #

      Thanks Riazmajid, I’m so glad you enjoyed my article! I spent almost five months travelling around India and went through most of the well known areas of the country – I loved the south, and Kerala in particular!

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